How to Choose An Engagement Ring to Suit Your Hand

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Looking for an engagement ring is a daunting task. This is probably the most important piece of jewelry you are going to buy (at least in Western cultures) and something that will be worn for a lifetime. And if you are buying the engagement ring as a surprise, this becomes even more daunting!

Apart from the technical aspects of buying the ring, such as the 4Cs of the diamond, the metal, setting and the budget, you will also need to consider the aesthetics of the overall design and whether it will match wearer’s personality, style and … hand.

Most people tend to overlook this point.

While the ring might look great in the display box, it might not shine as much (figuratively speaking) when placed on the wearer’s finger. Certain ring styles bring out the beauty in a person’s hand while others can emphasize the negatives. So, when picking a ring, it’s important to consider how the ring will look on the finger and whether it complements the shape of the hand. After all, it’s all about proportion.

Here’s a quick guide on how to select the perfect ring for any finger. But remember, in the words of Captain Barbosa, these are more what we’d call ‘guidelines’ than actual rules.

The Different Types of Fingers


  1. Long Fingers

Most ring designs and diamond cuts look great on long fingers. Whether you want to keep it simple with a solitaire ring or go big with an elaborate large design, chances are your hand will be able to carry it off well.

Square and round diamond cuts look especially good on long fingers as these don’t emphasize length. Consider cuts such as princess, square Asscher, cushion and round brilliant. However, thin, long diamond cuts such as pear, marquise and oval can make the finger look even longer.

Yellow asscher cut diamond in white gold setting

Asscher cut diamond ring. Find it here.

Wide band engagement ring on a womans finger

Wide band engagement ring. Find it here.

Wider bands work better with long fingers to give a balanced look and to complement the length of your finger. Avoid very thin metal bands unless you are deliberately going for a minimalist style.   Unique designs such as the east-west setting will look great on your fingers.

  1. Short Fingers

Short fingers refer to fingers that are roughly shorter than the palm of the hand. In this case, what you want from the ring is to add the illusion of length to the finger.

Choose diamond cuts such as marquise, pear and oval. If you would prefer a square cut, consider a long Asscher or emerald cut. These cuts tend to add length to short fingers.

short fingers marquise diamond engagement ring

Marquise ring in a thin band. Find it here.

Also choose thinner, tapering bands for your setting. Avoid large and elaborate ring designs as these can overwhelm your finger and look imbalanced. Also, avoid designs such as the east-west setting which can make your fingers look squat.

  1. Slender Fingers

For very slender fingers, the trick is to make the finger appear wider. Large gemstones and wide designs can overpower the finger so avoid these.

Slender Fingers with Wide band diamond solitaire engagement ring

Wide band diamond solitaire. Find it here.

For the best look, choose smaller gemstones that don’t cover the entire width of the finger. This way, you get so save money on the carat weight of your diamond too!

small yellow diamond engagement ring

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Also, you can choose to go with a wider band to give your finger more width as very thin bands can emphasize the thinness of your fingers.

  1. Wide Fingers

To minimize the appearance of width in your fingers, the best option is to choose a ring style that doesn’t show too much skin on the sides. This will make the width of the ring prominent rather than the finger.

This means that gemstones which are thin or narrow or smaller in size should be avoided.

Instead, choose gemstones which are wider, such as a wide emerald, Asscher, oval or heart cut. Larger halo designs and cluster settings also greatly complement wide fingers.

 While thin bands can look small on your finger, choosing a wider and larger setting will add balance to the overall look.

You will be able to perfectly carry off designs that contain angles (think geometric settings) and asymmetrical styles (as pictured below). 

wide engagement ring

Wide, asymmetrical love knot engagement ring. Find it here.

  1. Down Playing Certain Features

When it comes to fashion, there’s always a way around little features that you may not love about your hands.

Large Knuckles

If you have large and defined knuckles, and you don’t want them in the spotlight, draw attention to the ring rather than your fingers. How do you do this? Choose a heavier or wider band and a more eye-catching design. A minimalist design will keep your fingers in focus and emphasize the knuckles.

Tiny Hands

What about really petite hands? Remember that it all boils down to proportion and how the hand and ring work together. Avoid large and heavy settings, or designs that have lots of embellishment. This will overpower the hand and make the ring appear too large. Instead, opt for more delicate designs. A simple solitaire ring or a petite halo would complement a small hand beautifully.

Large Hands

And if you have large hands? Then the opposite approach is required. A delicate, minimalist design, with thin bands and small rocks, may appear lost on your finger. Pick a larger design that works in proportion to your hand. There are lots of options available to you, including large, elaborate designs, vintage styles, wide bands and big rocks.

Round brown diamond in halo setting

The clever setting makes this brown diamond appear much larger than it is. Find it here.

cluster setting engagement ring

Floral cluster setting, that gives the illusion of a large diamond. Find it here.

Here’s a pro tip. If you don’t have the money for a large rock, choose a halo design which makes even a small stone appear larger, or a cluster setting which consists of a number of small diamonds set together rather than one massive (and exponentially expensive!) rock.

Final Words

Remember that all these are simply guidelines and not hard and fast rules. You also have to take into account your preferences and style. Ultimately, what will influence your decision is how you feel about the appearance of the ring on your finger. If there’s a particular style or design that you really wish to have, go for it but note that you can always make changes to it to suit your finger.

And for guys, if you are buying the engagement ring for your girl without her hand in tow, these guidelines will help you to get a general idea of styles and designs that complement different hands. But don’t forget to consider her preferences as well as her lifestyle when selecting her engagement ring, because that will dictate how she feels about the ring. Stick to your budget and stick to a style that you know she’ll love.

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 A  guide on how to choose the perfect ring for your finger infographic

A quick guide on how to select the perfect ring for your finger

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